HoG Handbook
 

About Feelings

 

FeelingsFeelings are a normal part of being alive.  The feelings you have can't be called right or wrong.  Often we call feelings that are painful "negative feelings".  Feelings that cause pleasure are called "positive feelings".  Both types of feelings are a part of life.

Everyone has negative feelings now and then.  It is all right to feel down at times.  What is important is that you recognize negative feelings.  Then you can accept them as normal and know when you need to do something about them.  No one can change your feelings for you.  How you feel is up to you.

Some of the negative feelings people with bleeding disorders and their families have are:

  • fear 
  • anger
  • guilt 
  • self-pity
  • frustration
  • sadness  
  • jealousy
  • confusion
  • depression
  • loneliness
  • rejection

These are feelings everyone has at one time or another.  Most of the time, these feelings don't last.  They come and go and you can deal with them.

Negative feelings become a problem when they mess up your daily life.  You can become eaten up with anger, sadness, or other emotions.  Then you have trouble taking care of the things you need to do.  It affects your relationships with other people.  This is the time to work on your feelings.  If your negative feelings don't go away or if they get so big you can't cope, you may need to get help.